Recommended Reading: Books about The Power of Words

Most of the books listed here have been read by
Carisa Rasmussen and are quoted during her speaking events for powerofwords.org.
Some books listed have been recommended by others who also recognize the power of words.

Teen Torment: Overcoming Verbal Abuse at Home and at School by Patricia Evans
Designed to break the code of silence on verbal abuse in the teen world. Explains why verbal abuse is dangerous to teens and our world, and what we can do about it.  Verbal abuse impairs the self-confidence of teens and the self- knowledge necessary to develop healthy, functioning adults. This empowering guide will help identify and curb damaging behavior and strengthen communication. Includes checklists, charts, and an appended resource list.

Books that Can be Read to Children about The Power of Words

We All Sing With the Same Voice by J. Philip Miller and Sheppard M. Green
A classic Sesame Street song becomes a cheerful picture book. Many people from different nationalities and ethnic groups are represented. Fosters diversity tolerance and may prevent labeling. Includes CD of song. Ages 2-5.

The Quarreling Book by Charlotte Zolotow
This book brings it down to the basics – how two friends fight and then resolve their differences. Ages 4-8.
Casey and The Amazing, Giant, Green Shirt by Margaret Ross, Grades K-5
A story that deals with the power of words and the effect that labels can have on a child. Available in Spanish.
Casey and The See Through Head by Margaret Ross All Ages
The top ten secrets that can change your life forever.
Casey and The Growing Spurt by Margaret Ross Grades 6-9
Psst. Watch out for the whisper wars.

Many schools have problems with bullying, and the origin of bullying is name-calling, says the author, Margaret Ross. Schools are using the books as tools to stop taunting, name calling, ridiculing, threatening, and starting rumors, preventing the escalation of verbal violence.  Available from the Kamaron Institute at www.kamaron.org/casey.html. A dollar from each book will benefit the American Red Cross.

Mr. Peabody’s Apples by Madonna
With Mr. Peabody’s Apples, Madonna sustains her transformation from material girl to mom. Inspired by a 300-year-old Ukrainian story and illustrated by the talented Loren Long, Madonna’s tale is about the dangers of gossip. As
a frequent target of the rumor mill, who better to teach the young ones about the “power of words” and their potential to cause “harm to others” than the newly reformed diva. Also available in Spanish.

The Words Can Heal Handbook: by Hillary Rich, Irwin Katsof, Chaim Feld, Available at www.wordscanheal.org
Changing your words can transform your life and the lives of others. Techniques for improving relationships at home, school, and in the workplace.
“Every CEO must read this book. You cannot run a company with your greatest assets stabbing each other in the back.” John Gray Author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
“If  ‘Words Can Heal‘ saturated the high schools of our country, we wouldn’t see the shootings as we do.” Robert Schuller, Minister of The Hour of Power Show.
Easing the Teasing: Helping Your Child Cope with Name-calling, Ridicule & Verbal Bullying by Judy S. Freeman
Teasing among children cannot be prevented, but that doesn’t mean it is harmless. Teasing can lead to damaged self-esteem and a dislike for going to school that leads to lifelong educational problems. This groundbreaking book successfully teaches children and parents how to effectively deal with teasing and develop life-long coping skills. You will learn:

  • The roots of teasing and why some children engage in this behavior
  • How to talk to your child to find out why he or she is being teased
  • The ten strategies for dealing with teasers that really work, Click here for Easing the Teasing book notes

including self-talk, ignoring, reframing the tease,
disarming the teaser with a compliment, and using humor to lighten up the situation

  • How you can work with the school and teachers to combat teasing
  • How to help your child form healthy friendships, foster empathy and mutual support

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say! : 7 Simple Strategies to Help Our Children Along the Path
to Purpose and Possibility by Glenda Hatchett and Daniel Paisner
“We live in a time of tremendous uncertainty,” Judge Glenda Hatchett says. “Our children are constantly assaulted
by all kinds of negative impulses and images that can pull them from the right road.”
Judge Glenda Hatchett, who presides over a daytime television courtroom, wants to protect children and adolescents
so they can grow into healthy adults, and this book captures her forceful opinions on how to do so.
Hatchett writes, “I’ve seen too many kids in my courtroom who don’t have the first idea that they’re part of something bigger
than just themselves,” and goes on to present powerful examples of kids gone wrong, then gone right again.
Her seven strategies encompass such basic wisdom as “listen carefully,” “expect greatness” and “cheer” for your kids.
powerofwords.org speaker Carisa Rasmussen’s note:  “Cheer each child with frequent, encouraging, individual-specific words that bless!”

The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander. From Preschool to High School- How Parents and Teachers
Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence by Barbara Coloroso
Part One identifies the triad of Bullying: the bully who perpetrates the harm and get what they want; the bullied who is targeted, afraid to tell (and who may become a bully); and the bystanders who either watch, participate or look away- siblings, peers, adults who see bullying as “teasing” and a normal part of childhood- and don’t act to diffuse the situation. Part Two gives parents, caregivers, and educators- and most of all kids- the tools to break the cycle of violence by creating circles of caring. www.kidsareworthit.com
Recommended Books for Teens about The Power of Words

The Complete Idiots Guide to Surviving Peer Pressure for Teens by Hilary Cherniss, Sara Jane Sluke
Although I don’t condone or encourage referring to yourself or anyone else as an “idiot”, chapter 5 does have some good things to add to the subject of the power of words.  I only scanned the other chapters which also seem to contain some helpful information.

Click here for The Words Can Heal Handbook book notes
STICK UP FOR YOURSELF! Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem by Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D., Lev Raphael, Ph.D., and Pamela Espeland.
First published in 1990, this perennial best-seller has helped countless children build self-esteem and assertiveness skills.
Newly revised and updated, it’s the ultimate resource for any kid who’s ever been picked on at school, bossed around, blamed for things he or she didn’t do, or treated unfairly-and for any kid who sometimes feels frustrated, angry, powerless, or scared.
Simple words and real-life examples show how children can stick up for themselves with other kids (including bullies and teasers), big sisters and brothers, even grown-ups. Kids learn how to build relationships, become responsible, manage their anger, grow a “feelings vocabulary,” make good choices, solve problems, set goals, and “store” happiness and pride. Questions from real kids are paired with answers about how to handle specific situations calmly, confidently, and effectively.
A special note to parents and teachers explores the “self-esteem backlash” and explains what self-esteem really is-and why kids today need it more than ever. A wealth of practical, encouraging, realistic advice.

THE BULLY FREE CLASSROOM: Over 100 Tips and Strategies for Teachers K-8 by Allan L. Beane, Ph.D.
Up to 90 percent of students say they are bothered by bullying. From 10 to 24 percent of students say they are bullied in school. Bullying is a big problem in schools today-and you can do something about it. You can create a peaceful, caring classroom that promotes a sense of belonging in all students and stops bullying in its tracks. This book shows you how.
Allan Beane spells out over 100 prevention and intervention strategies you can start using immediately. Some are classroom-centered-designed to change everyone’s attitudes, thinking, and behaviors. Some are victim-centered, focusing on students who are current or potential victims of bullying. Some are bully-centered, because bullies need help as much as victims. All are easy to understand and simple to implement; many require little or no advance preparation and few or no special materials.
Positive and practical, reinforced with true stories and enhanced by reproducible forms, checklists, and resources, this solution-filled book can make your classroom a place where all students are free to learn without fear. Includes 45 reproducible handout masters.176 pp., S/C, 8 1/2″ x 11″, Otabind lay-flat binding. Grades K-8. (See also the BULLY FREE CLASSROOM Poster and the BULLY FREE ZONE Poster)
LIFE LISTS FOR TEENS: Tips, Steps, Hints, and How-Tos for Growing Up, Getting Along, Learning, and Having Fun
by Pamela Espeland.
Lists organize your thinking, focus your energy, free up time in your day (and space in your brain), and give you confidence. 10 Ways to Handle Hate Words and Slurs. 6 Ways to Remember What You Study, 12 Tips for Making and Keeping Friends, 3 Rules for Doing Internet Research. 10 Goal-Setting Steps, 18 Great Reasons to Serve Others. 8 Tips for Coping with Tragedy or Disaster, 9 Symptoms of Major Depression.  9 Tips for Changing Your Hair Color. Each list is like a mini self-help book-a starting-point for learning, thinking, and making positive choices and decisions.